Say Goodbye to Boring Sex With Sex Toys for Lovers

They say that when you are in love, you look at the world through rose tinted glasses. You are always willing to do anything to make your partner happy. What can make your partner happier than a steamy session in bed, every single time? Sex is a very crucial part of a relationship. Good physical compatibility is an assured way to let your love blossom with every passing day. Wondering what you can do to make this happen? Have you heard of sex toys for lovers?

These toys are the sure shot road to ecstasy. Most people dismiss the idea of indulging in such toys by calling them kinky and cheap. The other myth related to these toys is that it makes the partners insensitive towards each other. On the contrary, sex toys are the best way of expressing your care and concern for your lover. These toys for lovers are designed for the mutual pleasure and satisfaction of both the partners.

Adults toys increase the level of imagination and creativity in a fun way. The introduction is fun no doubt, but it also helps in developing a comfort level between the partners. These toys are the best way to let your partner know what your needs in bed are and also to find out his. Lately, a lot of women are taking interest in these sex toys for lovers. Their male partners are more than happy with this decision of introducing a third party in bed that does only good to the relationship.

There is a whole range of such toys, which are out for grabs in the market. Dildos, vibrators, DVDs, whips, handcuffs, erotic games and bonding tapes; the list is endless. Different couples have different preferences. The toys, which they eventually end up buying, are in accordance with these preferences. No matter how basic or advanced the sex toy is, the sole purpose of using it should be sinful pleasure, both for you as well as your partner.

Women are always on the hunt for ways in which they can keep their partners interested in them. Once you bring sex toys for lovers into your bedroom, you will never have to worry about your man straying. Men are aroused by visuals. The look of their partner using a vibrator is bound to arouse them in a matter of seconds. With this kind of improved and innovative sex life, which man will want to think of another woman?

No wonder these toys can cause a revolution in your life. However, it is advised that the introduction of these toys should be done gradually and gracefully. If you are just about beginning to use sex toys for lovers, begin with a basic toy. This will allow you and your partner to get comfortable with the idea of using a toy, before you begin to build a collection of them.

6 Explosive Adult Toys for Beginners

If you have never known the joy of plastic, silicone, injection moulding, and what happens when you combine it all with a little whirring motor… you’re in for a treat! For those who have never experienced adult toys, it can be a strange and unusual world. Start small – here we look at some of the best toys for beginners.

Lubes and lotions

If you’ve never used a sex toy, it’s also highly possible you’ve never experienced the joy of lubricant… which makes everything that you’ve done dozens of times before magically feel heaps better! Go for cheap and easily available water-based lube, long-lasting silicone, or exotic warming and cooling lotions. Just make sure you use ‘protection’ for your


You know where your most powerful sexual organ is located… between your ears. And no, it isn’t your nose! Lingerie can help you see yourself, or your partner, in a different light, and is a gentle introduction to toys.

Cyberskin Toys

If you’re new to the idea of using things other than human bits in your playtime, Cyberskin is a fantastic way to start. It has an ultra-realistic feel, and isn’t necessarily as intimidating as glittery purple plastic!

Egg and Bullet Vibrators

These tiny little gems of joy are discreet and easy to use. Because egg and bullet toys are so small, they fit right in with whatever you’d usually do – just adding a little buzz to the experience. Most have varying speed levels built in… and if you’re into the ‘shared secret’ experience, you can also get remote control vibrating knickers or insertable eggs, which your partner can turn on and off at will while you’re out in public.

Cock rings

For guys that haven’t had much experience with sex toys, cock rings can be a great place to start. Choose a cock-only ring to start with, as opposed to a cock-and-balls ring. Cock rings will help you last a little longer and get more pumped up.

Dildo Vibrators

These toys combine the best of both worlds, both standard and vibrating stimulation. If you want to buy your first toy to last, choose a vibrating dildo!

The Dangers of Sex Before and Outside of Marriage

Simply because something has become more acceptable to society as a whole doesn’t make it either right or without consequences. There are very real dangers that are associated with sex before and outside of marriage. I’m not looking for people to agree or disagree, but rather I’m looking to make some very sound, very logical, very clear presentations of the dangers.


Statistics prove that having multiple partners increases the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Some are curable and some aren’t. And if you choose to have sex before or outside of marriage then the odds are you’ll have multiple partners. This is a danger that I’ll not linger on for it is one of the most known and written about.

Even a casual goggle search will reveal article after article on this subject.


Sex before or outside of marriage begins to gnaw away at your emotional ties to long term relationships. You find yourself divorcing your emotions from the actual act of sex. This cheapens your emotions and short-circuits your ability to form lasting and meaningful relationships.

Sex is a highly emotional experience-at least it ought to be. If it is not, then I can bet you’ve had multiple partners already. Molesting a child does emotional damage to that child for the rest of his or her life. This merely demonstrates the emotional impact of sex on our mental state. Even for a teenager or young adult, having sex outside of the committed relationship of marriage damages us emotionally and makes having a future lasting and committed relationship more difficult and for some impossible.

If you have any desire at all for a lifelong relationship where two people have given each other fully and completely to each other, consider what I am saying. Sex before marriage or outside of it damages your chances.

If sex is the foundation of a relationship, the relationship itself has very little to support it. The foundation of a marriage ought to be the commitment they both people have towards each other. The sexual act becomes a wonderful expression of that commitment, it says, “You and only you.” But sex outside of marriage says something completely different. It certainly harms your ability to stay within a lasting and meaningful relationship.

Over the years that I’ve been counseling marriages, the ones that seem to have the fewest problems and the ones that seem to be strongest are those that saved themselves for each other. They let sex become a statement of their commitment and dedication, not a selfish fulfillment of a bodily function.

But the marriages where either of the two have had sex before or outside of it have commitment issues. They can’t have sex with each other and have it mean the same thing as those who saved themselves. I have to help them find another means to express that commitment.


The standard argument for having sex outside of marriage or even before it is this: If two people love each other, then what is so wrong with having sex?

If the only means to say, “I love you,” is to have sex, then we are in trouble. Sex ought to be the final expression of your love when you have thrown yourself completely and absolutely into a lifelong relationship. Anything less than complete commitment makes the expression of sex mundane and often even vain.

Someone who only seeks to have sex without the emotional impact of it only wants the physical ride, but not the expression of love that is meant to go with it. I’ve witnessed so many people struggle and struggle to find any meaningful relationship. Love has been cheapened to them and often becomes empty.

Sex, as a final act of commitment, is a powerful statement of love, one that my wife and I cherish deeply. I am so glad that I was able to give her this gift, and that she was able to give this to me. Sex, for us, deepens our commitment and rekindles our excitement. But done outside of the marriage, this no longer becomes true.


Sex ought to be the period or exclamation mark on your love and commitment to another person. Take away the commitment and replace it with a cheap love, you rob yourself of one of the most precious gifts you can give. It also damages your own self worth. You’ll begin to think either less of yourself, or others will think less of you. A woman who is loose is seen as a cheap thrill for a man. A man who goes from woman to woman is usually seen as a bad risk by a woman seeking to have a real and meaningful relationship.

More than that, people who never get to know you emotionally, spiritually, or mentally and still have sex with you never do get to know you beyond that. Once the physical is introduced, it often becomes the body of the relationship instead of putting the exclamation point on it. People rarely explore a relationship beyond the physical. You have fun with no depth. You have excitement with no meaning. This always erodes your own self image in either your own eyes or the eyes of others.

There comes a point when age and experience allows you to realize that sex is not the relationship. But if that is all you have, your mind and heart begins to drift and you begin to question your own self worth. Is it just your body that the other craves? What happens when you get sick, or old, or wrinkled? Will you be loved when you can’t perform like you do now? Can the relationship survive outside of the sexual act?

No teenage boy will emerge from a nursing home and say to his friends, “I saw a lot of sexy old women today!” Yet, every one of his future sex partners will eventually look like that and so will he.

There is more to you, more to your relationships than sex. Sex in marriage is the period or exclamation mark on a relationship that has significantly more depth and understanding to it than the physical. Ironically, it actually makes the sexual act much more enjoyable and meaningful done this way.


This I can practically guarantee. I don’t have the time to recount the number of marriages that struggle because of some indiscretion before or outside of the marriage. If you had to deal with the problems I have, you’d feel the same way I do about this entire issue.

Regret, depression, anxiety, abortion, nightmares, suspicion, trust issues, child support, adultery, anger, bitterness, rape, health issues, troubled children, rebellious teenagers using the past against the parent, teenage pregnancies, divorce, cancer, Aids, pornography, addictions, birth defects, and many, many more are all issues that I can often trace back to sex before or outside of marriage.

I’ve dealt with all of the above things and more in counseling broken marriages. Almost always, I can trace the root of the issue to sex before or outside of the marriage.

I can’t honestly think of a marriage that hasn’t been haunted by sexual misconduct before the marriage. And there are many examples of this. A woman who was sexually molested or abused as a child will find it difficult to trust men in general and her husband in particular. That’s not her fault, but it is something she will live with. A man that has had sex with many different women struggles to convince his wife that he loves her and only her and he constantly deals with his memories and even dreams. His protestations of love are often viewed as cheap and insufficient.

I could go on and on and on about the problems that are created because of sex before or outside of marriage. Lifelong relationships always suffer as a result.


Naturally, God discourages sex before marriage. I read once where someone argued that God never discouraged such a thing, but even a casual reading of the Scriptures will dissuade you from that notion.

Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2 – Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman (sexually). Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Sex, in God’s eyes, is more than a physical act. It is a spiritual experience meant to illustrate to us the joy of being in the presence of the Lord. Interestingly enough, fornication is often depicted as idolatry.

Deuteronomy 31:16 And the LORD said unto Moses, Behold, thou shalt sleep with thy fathers; and this people will rise up, and go a whoring after the gods of the strangers of the land, whither they go to be among them, and will forsake me, and break my covenant which I have made with them.

2 Chronicles 21:11 Moreover he made high places in the mountains of Judah, and caused the inhabitants of Jerusalem to commit fornication, and compelled Judah thereto.

God sees sex as a demonstration of a commitment to one person. Anything else is seen as fornication, whoring, adultery, and other sexual perversions. By keeping our sexual activities limited to one person in the bonds of marriage, we reinforce our own Christian bond and union with Jesus Christ. Marriage itself is compared scripturally to salvation in Jesus Christ (Ephesians 5:21-33). Marriage is a microcosm, a means by which we understand God better, of the relationship we have between Jesus Christ.

Marriage is a wonderful picture of the security we have in Jesus Christ for salvation. Sex is a wonderful, spiritual, picture of the joy we have in Christ. It is holy, right, and honorable in marriage.

No matter if you are a Christian or not, there are plenty of dangers to experiencing sexual activity outside of the marriage. The dangers are real. They do exist. And they do cause more problems than you’d ever really believe.

How to Choose a Vibrator for Beginners or Experienced Sex Toy Users

With so many vibrators to choose from, how do you know which vibrator is right for you? Whether you are a beginner vibrator user or an advanced sex toy user, here is a guide to help you choose the best vibrator for you.

If you are new to vibrators, and don’t know where to begin, here are a few things to think about:

Start with clitoral stimulation with either a bullet vibe, a finger vibe, or an external vibrator. Why? 50-70% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and are unable to have orgasms through sex alone. Therefore, a design with good clitoral stimulation is an excellent place to start. Keep in mind that although most vibrators can stimulate the clitoris, certain shapes are better than others. Smaller shapes like bullets and finger vibes focus directly on the clitoris. External vibratos are designed to conform to the curves of the body and make contact directly with the clitoris and vulva. Usually, they are more powerful and offer more speeds and/or patterns than a bullet vibrator.

Start with something aesthetically pleasing-if a vibrator is cheesy, ugly or unappealing looking, why would you want to put it near your private parts? We are not only turned on with our mind but with our eyes as well.

What if you are a pro? If you are an experienced vibrator user, you might consider the following when choosing to add to your vibrator collection:

Stimulation Type:

Internal Stimulation – Internal vibrators are much longer than external vibrators and are easy to hold during insertion. Whether you desire a sense of fullness or want to focus on the g-spot (those vibrators usually have a curved tip), there’s plenty to choose from.

Internal and Clitoral Stimulation/Dual Stimulation – The iconic rabbit is the way to go, but she’s grown up since Sex and the City. You can rock out to music or some rabbit vibrators let you have a better grip thanks to their modern design. The rabbit vibrator is so stylish and sophisticated now that she doesn’t even look like a vibrator anymore.

Clitoral Stimulation During Sex – If you are interested in clitoral stimulation during sex, then Vibrating Penis Rings or Couples Vibrators are your best option. Vibrating rings are hands-free and some come with a remote control. Couples vibrators are placed inside the woman’s vagina and rest on the clitoris. The penis is also inserted into the vagina, making it a tight fit for him and an orgasmic experience for her.

Power – Consider trying a more powerful vibrator or a vibrator with more speeds.

Functionality – Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes. You now have a choice between g-spot vibrators, waterproof vibrators, music vibrators, remote vibrators and rechargeable vibrators.

Durability – Cheap vibrators will work once or twice and then fall apart. Buy from a reputable brand and one that offers a solid warranty.

Whether you are buying your first vibrator or are an experienced user, here are some final points to consider when choosing a vibrator:

Size: Does size matter? Um… YES! If the vibrator is too big that it makes you or your partner uncomfortable, then it’s not for you. Do you want something that’s small enough to carry in your purse or travel with?

Power: How many speeds or pulse patterns do you want? Do you enjoy a steady pulse or do you like to mix it up?

Batteries: Many luxury vibrators are now rechargeable so you don’t have to worry about running out of batteries or your vibrator running out of juice. Convenience is key and green is sexy. Rechargeable vibrators are more expensive than battery operated vibrators, but think how much you will be saving.

Volume: No one wants a loud vibrator. It’s not only distracting, but your roommate or children might hear. Luckily, quality vibrators are all virtually silent.

Material: Many sex toys are made with chemicals that you wouldn’t want inside your body, like phthalates. Phthalates are chemicals used to soften PVC rubber. Luxury vibrators are made without phthalates and are body-safe. Materials include silicone, metal, thermoplastic elastomer/TPE (a soft and stretchy compound used in medical devices and not as durable as silicone) and Acrylonitrile Butadiene Styrene /ABS (a common thermoplastic that is used in many consumer goods-not as soft as silicone or TPE).